Everybody has a chapter in their life they don’t read out loud, but it should be known when to turn the pages than to close the book. One can’t start writing their next chapter of life until they keep re-reading the past one. It is okay to have boundaries, and it’s okay to let the disturbing thoughts out of it.
Sometimes the more possibilities you provide, the more esteem you lose. Your standards begin to be ignored when you let people get comfortable in knowing that another chance will always exist. They start to depend on your forgiveness. So don’t be a slave to the apologies. Allow yourself to be treated right the very first time, don’t allow anyone to misjudge your kindness and don’t guarantee them further chances. Don’t be afraid to walk away, be the ironclad personality who don’t compromise self respect. Hence I feel its always better to keep the doors closed for the unnecessary chaos that would be caused in the near future.
Saying ‘No’ means, you know your limits, you don’t have to be always good to everyone, and you don’t have to be a people pleaser. Because I feel, ‘No’ doesn’t have to come with an explanation or justification, unless you’re self satisfied over the ‘no’ you just uttered. Simply by knowing where to used this word, will set you free and permit you to concentrate on the things you want to treat as priorities.
The key is keeping yourself to yourself. Keep your mystery. Don’t give them too much information so they can’t define you !
Be finical about whom you are sharing your energy with, have a preference to reserve your time, efforts, space, intensity and spirit exclusively to those who reflect sincerity. Life is too worthy to spend your valuable time with the ones who drains your exuberance. Hence don’t worry about being nice every moment you breathe.
Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others
The fear of the unread chapter may hold you back, be unsure of your aspirations, but remember, other’s perspectives is not reality. If you doesn’t feel alright in reading it aloud, be fulfilled of your decision, and don’t beat yourself. It’s okay not to be perfect. To err is human. Never regret anything that has happened in your life, it cannot be changed, undone, unsaid, or forgotten so take it as a lesson learned and move on. This is your life, don’t permit anyone else to write it for you, and don’t ever apologize for the finest edits you make to your chapters. It is a right thing to have control over your life, what to do, and especially what not to do. Know your worth and never settle for anything less than you deserve. You have a right to protest your mistreatment and set boundaries for respectful interaction.
You’re not required to set yourself on fire to keep others warm
You’re not required to rip yourself into pieces to keep others whole